Don’t File Your Divorce Petition Until You Read This: Top Mistakes You Need to Avoid

If you’re contemplating divorce, you’re probably juggling a number of emotional, practical, and logistical concerns. It’s a stressful time, but learning as much as you can now about the mistakes you’ll want to avoid going forward can save you time, money, and heartache. So, today we’re discussing some of the biggest mistakes you should avoid in the divorce process.

1. Failing to Talk to an Attorney

Before you begin the divorce process, you should have a clear sense of the best approach for your situation.  It is crucial that anyone going into the divorce process have a firm handle on what their rights and obligations are.  On occasion, there may be issues in your case that the law doesn’t yet speak to.  Only an experienced Massachusetts family lawyer, like those at Wright Family Law Group can explain your options and tell you what to expect. They can also help you identify the information you’ll need, such as records of property, bank accounts, tax records, pay stubs, and other asset information. Knowing the law and the documentation you’ll need will make the entire process faster, more efficient and less stressful.

2. Not Considering Mediation

Even if you’re heading into a contested divorce, you may not necessarily have to litigate every issue before a judge. Many people use mediation, and the guidance of a third-party mediator, to find compromises on the terms of a divorce, including dividing assets, child custody and visitation, child support, and alimony. Using a mediator is usually faster and less expensive than going to court. That’s why we encourage and support mediation for our clients whenever possible at Wright Family Law Group.

3. Not Getting Everything in Writing

Any agreed-upon terms that aren’t explicitly covered in your divorce decree are probably legally unenforceable. So, while you and your ex-partner may have verbally agreed to share your vacation home equally, you may be unable to enforce the agreement if it isn’t in writing. The same goes for agreements about your children or the division of expenses. While you may have discussed an arrangement for paying for your kids’ college tuition, there’s no way to ensure your ex will follow through if it’s not in your divorce agreement. That’s why it’s essential to have an experienced family law attorney guiding you through the process and protecting your rights.

4. Putting the Kids in the Crossfire

While you may need to limit contact with your ex during your divorce, in most cases, it’s in your kids’ best interests to keep the lines of communication open and civil. Using them as go-betweens, or even speaking disrespectfully of their other parent in front of them, can damage your kids and your relationship with them. Studies show that the effects of divorce can be very harmful to children. One study showed that kids tend to show worse social and emotional development and more regularly put themselves in risky situations. This study also suggested that the absence of a parent after divorce could become a more triggering factor than death!

Difficult as it may be at times, it’s in everyone’s best interests to communicate directly, clearly, and politely with your former spouse on matters relating to your children, and maintain a positive attitude about their relationship with that parent.

Experienced Family Law Attorneys

At Wright Family Law Group, we specialize in family law and the financial problems that families face, including divorce.  With emotions potentially clouding your situation, it is wise to call upon a skilled team of attorneys who can effectively guide you toward a successful resolution. We strive to inform and protect you, giving you options during stressful times. Contact us today to schedule your consultation at either or Danvers or Tewksbury offices